How To Trust The Universe and Let Go With The Triangle Exercise.
In this video I talk about an exercise of Mike Dooley’s and it’s from his book called ‘Leveraging the Universe’. A brilliant book, I absolutely love it as it’s just full of so many great nuggets.
The exercise I want to go through today is called ‘The Triangle Exercise’ and this one is all about using your ‘Universal Manager’ as I like to call it – you know I like this idea or vision of having this Universal Manager just standing there over my shoulder with their pad and paper just waiting to take down all my goals and desires, to help me to create all the right circumstances and to bring everything into my reality.
So this exercise feels really good to do and is something I use a lot when I want to get out of my own way, when I don’t want to think about all of the ‘hows’ and when I want to let go of the need to control so much of the detail.
There are things we want in life that we don’t have total 100% control over from what we ’can see’, what our physical reality is right now. There are a lot of things that are going on at a source energy level which are ‘unseen’ – lots of things happening behind the scenes to make things ‘go our way’ and to move us step-by-step towards the goals that we desire.
Whether it’s a physical thing that you want, whether it’s to improve a relationship, whether you want to attract a relationship, whether it’s something to do with your career or your business and more…. this exercise is just a really great way of getting everything down on paper but also letting go of those things that you feel that you don’t have any control over.
These are the things that may normally stress you out because you try to manage the details of that and maybe you even just give up on what you want that goal to be.
So my beautiful diagram in the video is the one from Mike Dooley’s book. Here is a link to the book if you want to check it out on Amazon [affiliate link]:
The exercise in the book requires you to do a triangle but I often just do a straight line so I have 2 columns on a piece of paper because I find it easier. For the sake of this video, I wanted to do it exactly as it was in the book.
The reason you’re drawing this triangle here is because the aim is to move you up towards this one goal at the top point of the triangle. You only want to focus on one goal at a time. So if you want a new car, you want to attract your soulmate and you want to improve your career then do three different sheets on each one individually because it’s so much easier.
So we have 2 sides of the triangle. All the things under ‘Me’ are the things you can control – not the things that you’ve necessarily got total control over right now but they should be things that you can actually do to move you closer to your goal.
On on the other side of the piece of paper these are the things that the ‘Universe’ can get on with behind the scenes that take care of the ‘blessed hows’ (as Mike Dooley calls them)so that you can step aside let the universe do its work whilst you simply focus on what you ‘can do’.
This is really powerful and that’s why I call it my ‘Universal Manager’ because I like the thought that everything on that side of the paper is being managed by another force and I can simply let go of it. You could call it your ‘Universal PA’ – whatever feels good to you but that feeling of someone or something else taking all the burden of those details and the things that are unseen feels so good.
So if you were doing your own triangle, you would have a lot more on it (and more personal stuff) but in this video I have just done a little example of this triangle in action.
So I’ve recently done the video that’s all about improving your relationship so I thought this would be a good example.
So my goal at the top of the triangle is ‘to improve a relationship’ with a specific person. I’ve got my two columns / two sides of the triangle. On the left side are the tings that I’m going to focus on with regard to the specific person. On the right side are the things I am going to hand over to my Universal Manager so that they can work their magic / line things up for me.
It just feels so good to do this because you let go, it’s just a great way of letting go of the stuff that you don’t feel is within your control.
So the things I have listed that I can do are:
Treat them as if it is the first time I’ve met them
Only speak about them to supportive people
Expect to see the best in them
Write a list of good qualities
So this is all about letting go of the expectations and assumptions I’ve got around this particular person and just treating them like I have just met them for the first time. Changing my energy in that area can get a totally different reaction from that person. I’m only going to discuss this with people that are going to support this vibe and relationship becoming more positive. I don’t want to speak to people that are going to drag my energy down around this person
From this day forward I’m also going to expect to see the best that person and I’m also gonna ‘write a list of good qualities’ about that person. I’m going to find something good to write about them and see them a bit differently.
So these are all things that I can do. They are all things are totally within my control.
So what about the side that I can’t or I don’t feel like I can control but I know that Source Energy can give me a hand with? In partnership with my ‘Universal Manager’ I have even more power to help me create this positive relationship with that person.
So here are some of the things I have listed:
To bring me the support and inspiration I need to keep our relationship positive
To provide opportunities to see this person differently
To shine the light of their most positive aspects
So I’m asking my Universal manager to provide me with the support and inspiration to improve this relatinship – it might be that a certain coincidence takes place or that I am put in a certain social social situation with this person which helps us find a common ground with them.
I’m also asking for opportunities to see this person differently and so I see a different side to them or see them in a new light. So I’m writing a list of good qualities about that person but I also want the universe to actually shine a light on their positive aspects. I get what I am looking for in another person, so if I’m asking the light to be shown on their positive aspects that’s what I’m going to see more of.
So I have what I can control and I also know what I want to hand over to my ‘Universal Manager’ so they can do whatever they need in the magic realm of the universe to create that reality for me.
Can you see how this all adds up? Can you see how much it will help you to surrender more and to stop feeling like you have to control absolutely everything?
Take a look at Mike’s book if you want to or just try this exercise. It’s time to feel good about your goals and desires simply by creating a new partnership with your ‘Universal manager’ and to realize that you don’t have to control everything.
You only need to focus on the things that are within your control, one step at a time – now doesn’t that just feel good?